Don't let the cups drive you... Enjoy the coffee instead

When I thought of starting my blog, one thing I promised to myself, "I will not post any forwards!!!". I lived with my promise for 11 posts. But something kept compelling me to break my promise. Here it is which touched me with its simplicity and the utter truth which shows mirror to the today's generation (read it to US).
A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to hot coffee. When all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups and were eyeing each other's cups.

Now if life is coffee, then the jobs, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain Life, but the quality of Life doesn't change. Some times, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee in it."

Don't let the cups drive you... Enjoy the coffee instead.
I don't know how many times I have read this, I don't even know how many times in life I am going to read this, more interestingly, how many such incidents will happen which would compel me to read this article. Great truth of life wrapped up in simple words and presented in easy-to-understand manner.

Our fathers had decent salary yet, they raised their kids, married off their daughters, fulfilled all their responsibilities with that meagre salary.

WE, started our careers with the salaries which our fathers retired at!!! Still, there are only few who are happy with what they have, what they are doing. Reason... the next cube guy just flew to US of A... a friend got a huge hike in his company... relative's daughter got promoted to a higher post.... A neighbour's son got a seat in IIM.... reasons can be many... as they say, "nice looking expensive cups"... Result, long working hours, weekend slogs, work from home... just to reach the goal a little early!!!

A collegue and a good friend of mine once said "I am not here to compete with the guy who over-works and slogs 24X7, what if I don't get the rating as that guy, my time is spent happily with my family, what if my hikes are lesser to his, I invest my time networking people. At the end of the day, I may not be considered as THE GUY of the company, but my time, each and every minute spent, speaks quality in themselves". A nice reprimand to once over working habbit.

More often, the journey traversed becomes more enjoyable than the ultimate destination. Quality of life is finally accounted by the number of minute moments "lived" with your loved ones, than the number of flats,cars or the medals won.

They are just the cups to hold the life, enjoy the coffee instead :o)

Traffic, traffic, traffic.....

If you think I am like any other Bangalorean who is cribbing at traffic jams, then let me say I am not. I am just trying to present my experience of driving on one particular day in Bangalore. No doubt, there are some reasons behind these traffic jams which can make any normal man insane and curse each and everyone on the road and off it. There are our so called goody-goody buses who can literally stop anywhere and everywhere. According to my observation, these bus-stands are located very next to a traffic signal. Moment the bus crosses the signal, it stops creating havoc to the vehicles following it. Result, a traffic jam, before the vehicles can actually move, the signal would change and the people in other directions don't even have the patience till these people move out of the junction, they try to get in the narrow gaps between these vehicles and then start yelling at each other!!!
On one such particular day, I take out my car and realise the main road near my house is dug up. All the traffic is diverted to a narrow road where at max 2 cars can pass with a little more caution. Ok, fine... I start driving in that alternate road. There comes a crossing where I see a construction truck with all the load and I stop the vehicle promptly. A maruthi guy behind me honks and honks, showing me signs to move. Thinking a no-daring woman driver, this guy happily tries to surpass me and go, only to realise after coming next to me is that he can't go!!! Now even the truck can't go!!! There was a major traffic jam. One more intelligent person from the other side, tries to go beyond truck just to land his tyre in gutter. What if they were to wait for just 5 min to let the truck pass!!!

After successfully taking my car out of sucha mess, I drive for some more time and had to apply brake instantly. There was no signal, but there were some men crossing the road, slowly and elegantly, turning their face at us, as if they are in some beauty contest and we are the judges. I guess, we were supposed to put handbrakes, take out our pen and paper, rate each and every man for the elegance in walk, the degree of rotation of their face towards us, the time taken by them to cross past each car. Then I realised my mistake, I was wrong thinking roads are meant for vehicles!!! They are meant for people who take their sweet own time to cross at which ever place they want, only when they have mercy on the poor-souls on earth(read WE), they let us take a millimeter distance, before another contestant jumps into the road!!!!

After all such wonderful experiences of the day, I start back to my home in the evening and realise there is a traffic jam again!!!! One guy has come in the wrong side of the one way!!! Ok, that guy has realised and he wants to go back. Just like "rudalis", there are some people who wait for such incidents. A guy comes from nowhere and starts yelling at that guy. He was shouting as if something incorrigible has happened and left him pennyless. He was sitting and chatting with his fellows just a moment below. This jam certainly has nothing to do with him, but I don't know what prompted him to take the leadership. Most of the times, these people just let some frustation out which they couldn't have done otherwise. Thank god, that car guy was cool and he took the reverse in no time and went on his way, giving no ears to that man who still continued to shout!!!


All these incidents left me thinking!!! No doubt there are some situations where we can do nothing for this traffic monster, but there are many many incidents where we, being repsonible citizens can contribute just by being a little more patient and considerate to fellow drive mates. A small wait to let the other go will pay you off by not causing any traffic jam and delay. Following rules like following the lanes, signals, speed limits can make our lives much better. If we don't, then we have no other option left to say Bangalore traffic sucks, conviniently forgetting the fact that in one time or the other we too contributed to this traffic monster to grow.

Traffic is no entity until we take our vehicles out!!! Though we can not eliminate it we can minimise it for sure!!! Now you are the right person to decide what to choose :o)

Mere paas gaadi hain, bangla hain, tere paas kya hain? Mere Paas CREDIT CARD hain!!!


Though seems to be an exaggeration, I am sure all of you would have silently nodded on reading the post title. Thats the power this small, slim thing has!!! I was dying to possess one till I got hold of a few, now I can't wait to get rid of those. Say good bye to all your savings the moment you plan to get one. You realise it only after seeing the credit card statement. Just today I went to buy a track pant. A thing which normally costs from 100-150 rs costed me 3.5K, oh no!!! Thats not made of Kashmiri silk. There were 2 cute dress pieces which tempted my eyes and I fell prey for them. The result, a fat bill. But then did I buy what I wanted?? I didn't.

Last time when I got my credit card bill, I almost suffered a heart attack. I started wondering where all the money spent?? Luckily I had a list of grocery items I bought from a super market. I started counting the valid and not so valid items. Heck!!! out of 1.3K, only 280 Rs accounted for valid household items. Rest are awonhi junk things which I could have easily skipped. The kinds like realActive juice, some creme, some shampoo, some new product... The best part of this thoughtless shopping is, I won't even be remembering what I bought after 2 days. Result, they go unused. God, why do I go to such super markets!!! Next thing you do after such shopping is swipe the card, sign it and get going. [Did you say checking the bill or amount, grrrr!!!!]

Monetary aspect is not the only misery in credit cards, but their customer care facilities too. If you get 10 calls per day, 8 out of them would be from these dear friends offering life time free, international, gold, platinum, copper, tin and xyz cards. You apply for one card, the bank provides you with the visa card, amex version of the same card, additional cards to your dad, mom, grandpa, grandma, even to chintu who just got his first tooth. But they offer some free entertinement too, if your office phone rings post lunch, don't pick it up, just sit back and relax listening to the melody propagating from one cube to the other. This also increases the co-operation between co-workers, the one who mistakenly picks the calls, drops it and climbs over the cube to tell his next cube guy not to pick, its a CC call. Thanks to credit card and its excellent crew.One part of my mind says pack all the credit cards and throw it in the bin. But then the other cribs thinking of inconvinience its gonna face without a card. Lets see who wins :o)